Monthly Archives: November 2013

Give thanks, get goodness

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I want to be grateful. And so I am.

There’s a message board in the entryway to my apartment, and on it I’ve written a reminder that has really helped me stay present the last week or so.

“Focus on what you want.”

That means no regretting what didn’t happen or dwelling on what’s wrong. It means noticing my thoughts and dismissing what doesn’t serve me. It means leaving no space in my brain for anything other than a vision of life as I most love it.

My mind wants to worry and wonder: What if this doesn’t work or that doesn’t pan out? Or for that matter, what if it does?

It’s so easy to get caught in thought tangles, to rationalize my mental gymnastics as reasonable or necessary.

But the truth is, life as I most love it does not need to be thought.

It needs to be seen.

When I close my eyes and imagine ideal outcomes in sensory detail, I am communicating clearly with the universe. When I focus steady on what I desire deep, I can make realities from my dreams.

The methods and processes of manifestation are many, and I’m going to share with you the simplest technique I know:

Give thanks.

The more gratitude you give, the more goodness you are able to accept. And when you focus on what you want, you can summon the feeling of having received it.

Get in the habit of doing that, and soon enough, real life will match your dreams–or maybe even be better.


How can you help you help you?

Keeping flowers in my kitchen is a form of self-care.

I’ve learned that self-care is pretty much nonnegotiable if I want to be nonmiserable, but lately I’ve been scraping by with the bare minimum.

So it was pretty cool when the latest Wholly Shift session resulted in a concrete list of tasks I can complete each morning and night in service of my well-being and continued growth.

Here’s what I came up with, which I’m sharing in the hopes that it might inspire you, and also to make me more accountable.

Five things I am going to do within five hours of waking up:

(1) Eat breakfast

(2) Write morning pages

(3) Meditate

(4) Handle the most urgent tasks at work

(5) Take one action on behalf of #AYMBF*


Five things I am going to do within three hours of going to sleep:

(1) Make a loving connection with someone

(2) Write for ≥ ten minutes

(3) Review my day and acknowledge my accomplishments

(4) Breathe and stretch for ≥ seven minutes

(5) Read

As you can see, none of the items on my lists are exactly neuroscience. Except, actually, they are. Because as I commit to positive behaviors, my brain will positively respond, rewiring itself to support these healthy new patterns.

Thank goodness for neuroplasticity. What do you want to do with yours?


* If you don’t know what #AYMBF is, I’d love for you to check out my author website and find out!