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Postscript (Lesson Infinity)

You’re about to read the Postscript. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. “Love is a 24/7 job.” I feel a little anxious about the ending of this blog. For nearly two months, I have had a defined focus, an anchor in my heartache. Now this project is finished, except of course […]

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Holding the High Watch (Lesson 49)

You’re about to read Chapter 49. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. When I first started this project, Lesson 49 seemed impossibly far away. Now that it is here, I am sort of freaking out. Because now that I am at the end, I can see this is only the beginning. […]

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On Giving Thanks (Lesson 47)

You’re about to read Chapter 47. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. I am exhausted and I miss Paul and I am not pleased about either of those facts (or are they feelings?). But I am not repressing my current reality. In fact, in keeping with the topic of today’s lesson, […]

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From “Me” to “We” (Lesson 45)

You’re about to read Chapter 45. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. I’m so tired I feel like crying, but I don’t want to shortchange this post. Still, I give myself permission to do exactly that, because sleep is my most important act of self-care. And when I am with family […]

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Let Love Live Your Life (Lesson 44)

You’re about to read Chapter 44. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. Okay so the title of this chapter nearly freaked me out, it’s so similar to a life motto I kinda thought I invented. But I guess there are really no new ideas. And anyway, my own personal directive to “let […]

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The Enchanted Life (Lesson 43)

You’re about to read Chapter 43. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. “The Enchanted Life” really just means “The Grateful Life.” And I am so grateful to be living it. Week 7 out of 7 has begun First of all, although I have consciously avoided making too much fuss about tracking […]

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On Speaking Up (Lesson 42)

You’re about to read Chapter 42. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. For the first time in forty-two consecutive days, I am at a loss for words. How fitting, then, that Lesson 42 is about speaking up. Of course I have plenty to say The truth is, I’m tired. I cried […]

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Listening With An Open Heart (Lesson 41)

You’re about to read Chapter 41. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. I confess: I love to talk. Like, a lot. But listening is so, so, so much more important. “For truly, listening is love in action.” I love listening. For a long time, I was a terrible listener. It wasn’t […]

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Living the Questions (Lesson 40)

You’re about to read Chapter 40. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. Given that I am currently dwelling in a time of deep uncertainty, the topic of Lesson 40 is certainly appropriate. But that doesn’t mean I enjoyed it. The anxiety of not knowing Katherine confesses that she often finds it […]

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Being at Cause (Lesson 39)

You’re about to read Chapter 39. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. I forgive you, I forgive you, I forgive you, I forgive you, I am willing to see this differently. I forgive you, I forgive you, I forgive you, I am willing to see this differently.  Last night I blinked […]

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Overthrowing the Bogeyman (Lesson 38)

You’re about to read Chapter 38. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. I don’t believe in the bogeyman and I never really did, so I wish Katherine had chosen a better title for Lesson 38. Something like “Acknowledging Your Fears” would have been perfectly apt, but whatever. Title notwithstanding, this lesson […]

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On Being Happy (Lesson 37)

You’re about to read Chapter 37. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. Taking responsibility for my own happiness is the smartest, bravest, hardest thing I’ve ever done. And every day feels like a do-over. First of all, let’s just get this Sheryl Crow reference out of the way I don’t actually […]

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Cultivating Solitude (Lesson 35)

You’re about to read Chapter 35. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. “My singleness is a privilege, not a punishment. I am choosing it in every moment, at some level at least, or it would not be happening.” That’s something I wrote in 2014 right after I got home from seeing […]

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On Developing Emotional Literacy (Lesson 34)

You’re about to read Chapter 34. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. I’ll be honest. I straight up don’t feel like writing about feelings right now. I read Lesson 34, and I did the homework. And for today, that just might have to be enough. [Editor’s Note: Naturally, I then go […]

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On Sexual Healing (Lesson 33)

You’re about to read Chapter 33. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. It probably sounds arrogant (or ignorant?) to say this, but I believe I am sexually healed. Unfortunately I don’t feel comfortable explaining entirely why, because it involves Paul, and I am very aware that he is not aware of […]

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The Art of Receiving (Lesson 31)

You’re about to read Chapter 31. Want to start this story from the beginning? Go here. Confession: I am losing steam on this quest. I am not losing my resolve, mind you. I am nothing if not stubborn, and even if just purely on principle, I am determined to keep my word and finish what […]

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Love > fear